OhBaby

Having a baby is  very time consuming and tiring. We don’t feel attractive or sexy. So why would we be interested in sex at all? But the truth is, sex is a very important aspect in a marriage. Men usually feel neglected with the arrival of a new baby, when we focus all of our attention on our little bundle of joy. We sometimes forget we are not only mothers but wives as well.

When I first brought my baby home, the last thing on my mind was sex. I was so nervous as a first time mother that I couldn’t concentrate on anything else. Didn’t take long when I noticed my husband and I were having problems with our sex life. He wanted to have sex and I just didn’t have the desire. A couple of weeks after giving birth I started to lose the baby weight, oh breastfeeding really works wonders. Believe it or not, I had lost the 40 pounds I had gained during pregnancy in less than a month. That really helped my confidence. That alone made me feel more attractive, I started to feel not just like a mom but like a woman again. From then on it seemed that I had regained my sex drive overnight. Since I had a C-section I was told to not have sex until after six weeks. But by the fifth week We were already having sex. It was a breakthrough for me to know that I could be both a loving, nurturing mother to my baby girl, and a sensual woman to my husband.

I’m aware that no woman is the same. It takes more time to some than others to get back to their old selves. Don’t feel pressured or rushed to start having sex. Wait until both you and you hubby are ready. Always keep the line of communication open. Let each other know what your feelings are. Always express your needs and desires and address them accordingly. Don’t just ignore this issue hoping it all go away on it’s own, doing this could only bring more problems and resentments later. Communication is key. It takes time but keep in mind that most couples will get their sex life back on track.

When you are ready, ease into it. And if your not looking into having another baby , dont forget to use contraceptives. Find free time around your baby’s schedule to spend with your partner. Maybe during nap time. You dont even need to have sex, maybe some quality time and cuddling  is all that’s needed . You could always get a babysitter and have a romantic dinner with you husband that would lead to an unforgettable night. Just remember that just like our babies, our husbands need us too.

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